Friday 5 April 2013

Ongoing cramps after miscarriage - enough is enough!


After 6 months of ongoing cramps, finally enough is enough. I'm so frustrated and starting to feel beaten down by the relentlessness of them. They come and go with no pattern and no real reason but significantly impact my life. Finally, I went back to the doctors demanding something be done.

I don't have a problem with seeing male doctors except for when they dismiss things you're clearly worried about. My obstetrician, GP and fertility specialist brushed off my worries and just told me not to worry. That's a bit hard when the physical pain you relate to having a miscarriage haunts you. I'm scared of getting pregnant while this is going on as I will spend 9 months thinking I'm miscarrying again everytime a cramp hits. That's not how I want to spend my next pregnancy.

I of course googled it and I think this is the one and only time I haven't found an answer on google. I came across chat forums of women who experienced ongoing cramps for months after  their miscarriage but none of them had an explanation for it and all of them were concerned about it. At least I knew I wasn't alone.

So I went back to the GP as I knew he would take me seriously when I told him something needed to be done. He at least gets the fact that the other doctors can dismiss me easily because they aren't living through it. That's why I love him!

All he could do is take a swab and see if there was some internal infection causing it. I'd already had the scans which revealed the non-existent ovarian cyst so there was no point going back for more scans. He also gave me some strong anti-inflammatories I need to take twice a day for 5 weeks. I'm not sure that addresses the problem but if it addresses my mental link to the pain then I guess that's something.

For now it's just more pills to swallow. A new addition to the homeopathic and clomid cocktail I'm currently on. At times, it's so difficult to deal with. I feel like its the last barrier I need to deal with to feel I'd be comfortable with another pregnancy and that's annoying. I'd like to sit down with my body and tell it I've suffered enough and don't need anymore pain. Unfortunately it won't listen to me so I guess I need to listen to it and do something to sort it out. Now it's waiting to see what the swab reveals. Hopefully it's something. If it's nothing then it's back to the drawing board. I seem to visit the drawing board alot lately! 


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4 comments:

  1. You're right; there is nothing on the internet about this. I had a miscarriage four weeks ago. My body healed itself but everyday I suffer from painful cramps as if I'm going to have a cycle but I never do. I know I'm not pregnant because my husband and I haven't had sex due to us waiting for my body to return to normal.

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    1. I'm sorry you're going through such pain with your miscarriage. It is such an emotionally and physically draining journey. My cycle returned with medication 8 weeks after the miscarriage so it can just take time but it will happen when it's ready. The body needs time to recover, just as our hearts and mind do, and as frustrating as it was, I realised I needed to be patient and let my body work through everything it needed to. It didn't stop the anxiety I had when I felt cramps and pains during the pregnancy, but I soon realised what was causing them so could calm myself down that it was all normal. It then took me 6 months to fall pregnant again so I realised my body just needed time. I know that doesn't help with what you're experiencing so all I can say is hold onto the fact that it does get better! I wish you all the very best in your journey!

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  2. I realize this is an old post but I am desperate for information now as well. This is the first post I've found that comes close to mentioning my experience. I had a very early miscarriage a month ago. This month what I thought was af came early but never fully came on. Spotting, light bleeding, cramps that came and went. The bleeding stopped after 5 days but the cramps have continued. They come and go and at times I check to see if I am bleeding because they are like af cramps..or they shift to only one side (almost always the right) my doctor brushed it off as recovery from the MC. I have taken an embaerassing #of pregnancy tests to make sure thats not whats going on. All negative. I just have not read of this happening to anyone else. So frustrated. I certainly hope that your phyical and emotional pain ended with happier news later. Thanks for sharing your story.

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  3. I'm sorry to hear it's so tough for you. As you read, my cramps continued for 6 months so be aware it can go on for that long. If you had to have the DNC you can go back to the OB/Gyno to make sure they got it all but I think most of the times it is the body's way of coping with it. My periods came back 8 weeks after my DNC and I needed medication to bring them back. The cramps certainly got less intense once that happened. I fell pregnant 7 months after my miscarriage and think the anti inflammatories the doctor prescribed did help. Sadly, we just don't recover from these things as quickly as we'd like and the recovery makes what happened even cruler

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